Oh James, this touches deeply. We do fail at loving. Giving ourselves permission for this? Giving others permission for this? That surely must be the road to truth in loving with compassion. 💜
Leaky eyes here. This is so poignantly apt. I try to believe that even if I fail at how I want to show up, the small gestures that I am good at making matter just as much
thank you for sharing this vulnerable piece of peace, james. one of the most helpful reminders i’ve integrated about conflicts in relationships and owning our shortcomings is: the intention doesn’t matter, the impact does. too often i’ve struggled to defend what i said or how i said it when in the end someone’s feelings were hurt and that is enough for me to humbly say, “i’m sorry. i’ll try to do better.”
James....I am new to your writing and this page. I have learned, often the hard way, that I am human and will be unkind, uncaring and speak harsh words. I am also loving, compassionate and full of humor. I make mistakes. I get caught up in my head about the right and wrong of a thing and then speak carelessly. In the past, I could suffer my transgression for days, beating myself up and living in shame. Over the years, I've learned to be gentle with myself and apologize quicker. Not surprisingly, the more gentle I can be with myself....the more gentle and forgiving I can be to another. Loving in a partnership is HARD work! But so worth it! enjoy your orange!!
What a lovely poem. What lovely events with some lovely souls. I singed up for the one on the 16th, but the Eventbrite link did not have a registration for the 23rd. Can you check that? It could be on my end.
As far as making Amends, I have two homeschooled children and I have to do this just about every day. It takes knowing that we are all capable of being the worst of humanity and the best of humanity... and many times we do harm in the name of "good." It is all a healing and learning opportunity. Sometimes it is the judgement coming through the tone, sometimes it is the actual words. But love... love is understanding that we are fundamentally connected and are one... and doing what we can to remove the interference and learned disconnect and self-protection.
To mend, make amends.
Regret we’ve caused harm, hurt, break.
Try ever again.
Love in tiny gestures. I love it. ❤️
Oh James, this touches deeply. We do fail at loving. Giving ourselves permission for this? Giving others permission for this? That surely must be the road to truth in loving with compassion. 💜
Yes, absolutely. And the road to peace.
So beautiful. This one brought me to tears.
Leaky eyes here. This is so poignantly apt. I try to believe that even if I fail at how I want to show up, the small gestures that I am good at making matter just as much
I think those gestures do matter, Jeanette, and go a very long way toward reconciliation.
thank you for sharing this vulnerable piece of peace, james. one of the most helpful reminders i’ve integrated about conflicts in relationships and owning our shortcomings is: the intention doesn’t matter, the impact does. too often i’ve struggled to defend what i said or how i said it when in the end someone’s feelings were hurt and that is enough for me to humbly say, “i’m sorry. i’ll try to do better.”
James....I am new to your writing and this page. I have learned, often the hard way, that I am human and will be unkind, uncaring and speak harsh words. I am also loving, compassionate and full of humor. I make mistakes. I get caught up in my head about the right and wrong of a thing and then speak carelessly. In the past, I could suffer my transgression for days, beating myself up and living in shame. Over the years, I've learned to be gentle with myself and apologize quicker. Not surprisingly, the more gentle I can be with myself....the more gentle and forgiving I can be to another. Loving in a partnership is HARD work! But so worth it! enjoy your orange!!
What a lovely poem. What lovely events with some lovely souls. I singed up for the one on the 16th, but the Eventbrite link did not have a registration for the 23rd. Can you check that? It could be on my end.
As far as making Amends, I have two homeschooled children and I have to do this just about every day. It takes knowing that we are all capable of being the worst of humanity and the best of humanity... and many times we do harm in the name of "good." It is all a healing and learning opportunity. Sometimes it is the judgement coming through the tone, sometimes it is the actual words. But love... love is understanding that we are fundamentally connected and are one... and doing what we can to remove the interference and learned disconnect and self-protection.